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Quickie Post

October 24, 2008

Just wanted to let you guys know I’m still around, and I’ll be doing at least a couple of posts in the next couple of days.  Family issues are calming down and will hopefully be back to normal in a month or so.

Posts upcoming: Humor and fun in BDSM. A review of the Bandito (thanks, Essin’ Em!). Possibilities for moving the blog. A little introspection (yes, again, introspection). More pervertibles. More DIYs and How-tos.

So look forward to those, and more.  In the next few weeks, I’ll also be starting to review products for Babeland.com, which is a supercool thing. If you’ll look on the right of this page, you’ll notice a Babeland graphic. Click on that if you decide to shop, kay? ;)

More later.

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Oh Noes! I’ve been tagged!

October 21, 2008

The Butterfly Temptress tagged me with a meme!

The Rules-
* Link to your tagger and list these rules on your blog.
* Share 7 facts about yourself on your blog – some random, some weird.
* Tag 7 people at the end of your post by leaving their names as well as links to their blog.
* Let them know they have been tagged by leaving a comment on their blog.

Step one: check.

Step two:

  • I roast coffee, brew beer, and can skin and butcher my own meat.
  • I get mildly obsessive about learning how things work.
  • My college work was in psych and criminal justice.
  • I’ve been trying to get the Playgirl issue with Peter Steele (from Type O Negative) for about ten years now; I’ve offered upwards of fifty bucks, but nobody I know will part with it.
  • I love durian (It’s a fruit. Look it up. You’ll understand why it’s worth mentioning).
  • I’ve seen Tom Jones live in concert. And y’know what? He was pretty damn cool. So was Johnny Mathis.
  • I have a small collection of bladed weapons that I’m always interested in expanding.

Step 3: This one’s tough, cause damn near everybody’s been tagged already…but here goes.

Thursday’s Child: Because she’s just so much fun.
Narration by D: Because he doesn’t write enough!
Mina and Sylvanus: Because I miss them on Twitter.
Alpine Subdreams: Because she posts pretty pictures. I still love the feathers!
Ellie: Because I’m so going to meet her one of these days.
VanImp: Simply because she’s awesome.
Curvaceous Dee: Because she inspired me to start this blog and I love her for it. ;)

Step 4: Profit! Err..comment! I’ll get right on that (eventually). ;) Forgive me if your comment doesn’t show up for a day or two…

Many Colors of Rope

October 20, 2008

Pretty pretty colors. :)

Some of these you’ve seen pictures of before, but here they are all together.
The colors unfortunately don’t come through as well as I’d like, but I’m working with a camera phone. Them’s the breaks until I get a decent camera.

The one at the top was the length I dyed last night: 30 feet of 6mm hemp. I used Scarlet 5 Rit brand dye, the liquid form. I followed the instructions to a point, though I didn’t stir constantly (it’s rope, not fabric), and I did let it simmer longer than recommended because I was *ahem* testing a new acquisition for review and got distracted. I found it easy to use (just dump in the water, heat, and go), but it seemed to take longer to rinse to the point of clear water than other methods. That may be because of the longer simmer time, but we’ll see. The color was very true to the label and very even. I also dyed two white cotton shop towels to match. I figure I’ll throw ’em in my toybag for various and sundry needs. ;)

The second one is also 30 feet of 6mm hemp. The dye used for this experiment was Purple 15 Rit brand dye, powder form. The instructions said to add a little detergent to the dyebath and a cup of salt, which the liquid form did not. I followed the directions on this batch almost exactly, and the color came out beautifully rich and even. It was somewhat darker than the package, but that’s what I was going for. It rinsed clear faster than the liquid type. I dyed two matching shop towels for this color as well. Gorgeously rich purple.

The third is another 30 feet of 6mm hemp. I used Kool-Aid for this one, three packs of Tropical Punch and one of Grape. The process is described in a little more detail a bit farther down in this entry, when I talk about my first experiments with it. The color isn’t as rich as I’d like, and didn’t seem to penetrate perfectly. I did only leave it on the stove for about half an hour, so perhaps longer time is needed.

The fourth is yet another 30 feet of 6mm hemp. This is the rope in its natural state, and I put it in the picture so you can see the base color for the previous three experiments. :)

The fifth and sixth in the picture are each 30 foot lenghts of an 8mm nylon-poly blend. To dye them, something I’ve mentioned before: Kool-Aid. The top one was Grape and the bottom Black Cherry. I also have a 30 foot length of Tropical Punch, not shown. ;) I saw several websites dealing with the idea, and all were different. The one I stuck with had some good visuals. Now, the page said to use one package per ounce; that’s overkill, people! Experiment with it, but you don’t need nearly that much. Now, you’ll notice that it’s not a uniform color. That was unexpected, but not a bad thing at all. Basically, one type of fiber took the dye and the other didn’t. The resulting effect is very pretty, almost candy-like. If I could figure out which fiber took the dye, and then find another type of dye for the other fiber? That’d be fun. ;) Any suggestions are welcome.

The seventh is 50 feet of 10mm nylon-poly blend. I used Red Rit brand dye (I don’t recall the number), powder version. I was actually disappointed in this dyejob. I followed the Two Knotty Boys‘ instructions to the letter, down to the exact brand and length of rope. I’m thinking either I completely missed something in the video I found, or there’s something odd about my water chemistry. Either way, instead of rich, even color I got an odd variegated pattern. Now, after the fact, I kinda like it. It looks vaguely like serpentine scales (only vaguely, but the impression is there).

The eighth experiment was the first I did, actually. It’s about five feet of approximately 6mm nylon-poly, dyed with super-strong tea (English Breakfast, to be precise, but any black tea will do). Brew it hella strong, strain out the leaves, then let the material simmer in the pot for a while. The color on the white rope makes it look somewhat like hemp at a glance; on fabrics like linen it makes it look antique.

To sum up: All of these experiments worked to a degree. For the truest, deepest colors, Rit seems to be the way to go. The Kool-Aid dyed ropes would be suitable to use in the mouth (bit gags and such; thank you again, Two Knotty Boys). The Rit-dyed rope I would be uncomfortable using like that unless it’s been washed several times and I was sure of the colorfastness.

All of these methods were similar in ease of use and ease of cleanup, the very simplest was the liquid Rit, which called for no additives. Colorfastness has yet to be truly determined, because that’s going to take time, use, and washings. The Black Cherry rope has been used and washed once and kept its color perfectly. As for color transfer to the skin, I think it passed the test (FM? Chime in. Did ya end up with any Kool-Aid marks in unfortunate spots? ;)).

A caveat to anyone that I practice on: I apologize if you end up with dyemarks. ;) I’ll keep soap on hand for cleanup.

As always, if anyone has any suggestions or comments, I love hearing them!

I Can Has Toys?

October 19, 2008

So I won a contest! 

Essin’ Em ran a contest on her blog Sexuality Happens, and the prize was the Bandito.  My limerick squeaked out a win (not sure how; there were some really good ones submitted. Check them out).  Also, check out the contest she’s throwing for her two year blogiversary. It looks like a hoot and I can’t wait to see the results. 

Yeah, so I’ll soon have a new toy. I’ve been wanting one anyway, and this one looks like it’s fun and versatile. ;)  It’ll be my first silicone toy as well, and I’m looking forward to it.  Fun Factory has a good reputation, from what I understand.  And of course, in good blogger fashion, I’m just gonna have to share my opinions when I get a chance to try it out. *grin*  

In other news, I’ve changed my mind on the dyeing of the hemp rope. I’m leaving one 30′ length its natural color and dyeing the other three lengths with three different methods. When I’m done, I’ll let you know how each method worked. That post should be up by Monday if all goes well. 

Again, thank you all for your patience during the past couple of weeks.  Normal posting should be back on track soon.

Conditioning Rope

October 7, 2008

(edited because I completely forgot to reference and link to the company I purchased the rope from as I meant to!)

The hunt for rope began at Home Depot. 

I picked up a package of a nylon/polyester solid-braid blend and made floggers out of it. This began my fascination with the stuff. After that, I picked up another pack of 8mm nylon/poly, this one more of a twisted rope. I cut this into thirty-foot lengths, and this was my first set of bondage rope (the set I dyed with kool-aid, if you’ve been taking notes). I also picked up some ten-millimeter stock. I used this to make a rather heavy flogger that’s quite nice. 

In the interim, I bought a batch of manila and another of sisal. The manila simply isn’t going to get where I want it to be, therefore I gave up. As for the sisal, I researched it and realized it really wasn’t going to suit my needs before I wasted any time trying to condition it.

So I finally got my hemp rope in.  It’s from a company called Rawganique out of Canada.

After getting good information from Ellie Lumpesse, I started by singeing the rope to remove any sharp or long fibers.  I had a pot of water on hand in case of incident. The water attracted a certain curious pussycat.
After that, I plopped it into the pot to let it boil. It boiled for six long, stinky hours. I then dumped it out and hung it to dry.

This morning, I stretched it. My tools? Gloved hands and my feet. 

After the stretching came more singeing, then I oiled it with scented mineral oil. I’m not sure how much oil is actually called for, but I’m going to be working the rope more and adding more oil. It’s very very lovely, and I have four thirty-foot lengths of it.

I also have a spare three feet that I’ll be using for several dyeing experiments. This first batch is staying its natural color, however.

Conclusion: While I’m not completely done conditioning this rope, I will say it was worth the time. I don’t know if it’s going to be something I do often, or learn to do with any efficiency, but I’ve been enjoying this. I now understand the work that Twisted Monk puts into his stock, and I’ve heard his stuff is absolutely amazing. 

By the way, check out my bitchin’ sailor’s whipping:

It looks so much better than the electrical tape I did have on the ends of all my rope before. Oh, and the blurry black thing? Not the monster from Lost. That’s a cat trying to get his catfoot into frame while mommy’s shooting pictures.

There’s something about making your own tools. You’re putting your own time and sweat into it, and you’re putting something of yourself into it. There’s a connection there. My rope floggers aren’t the prettiest critters, but I know the feel of them. The vampire glove I made (which I gifted to DB) was downright ugly…but it got the job done, and I knew it. I urge everyone to make at least one toy for your bag. ;) See if you don’t enjoy it.

Tomorrow: Pervertibles!!

BDSM checklist: brought to you by the letter D.

October 5, 2008

And now for the second installment of the Erotic Bohemian’s BDSM checklist meme.

From the list below, select the activities you have partaken in and feel comfortable sharing your experiences on. In your blog, tell about:
An activity (or activities) that was a fun experience for you. What did you enjoy or what was an especially pleasurable activity? If you’ve never attempted any on the list, which do you think you’d enjoy if you had to choose one and why?
What, if any, of the activities below pushes a limit for you? Have you attempted it?
What, if any, of the below items was a good learning experience for you?

And here are the “D’s”….
Daily Diary/Reporting

For introspective purposes, it’s not a bad plan. I tend to do my introspection on my blog, however, though it may not be daily.  As for assigning this for someone else…it would really depend on the person. 

Daily mantra

For me, I don’t know how effective this  would actually be.  A daily mantra seems like it would be a very personal thing to me, rather than something assigned.

Diet Control

I’m more one for a top/bottom dynamic than a D/s one in my personal world; for a D/s couple this would be an interesting way to help cement that power exhange. 

Diapers 

Not my thing, really. We discussed the age play thing in the first part of the meme.

Dildo (For Female Pleasure)

Ohyeah. I keep seeing new and interesting shapes I want. I’m becoming a sex toy snob, I think…

Dildo (For Male Pleasure)

I haven’t yet been intimate with a male that was willing to experiment with that sort of experience…I do have to admit the idea is intriguing.

Domestic Service

For a short amount of time, this would be a pleasant diversion (speaking from the Domme side of the equation).  On the sub side of things, it’s not something I’ve really considered. Depending on the dynamic with the person, I might consider it for a short period just for the experience. 

The Ds turned out to be a short section, but there it is. More later, when the Es are posted. ;)

It seemed an interesting idea…

September 30, 2008

And as I’ve said before, I’m a sucker for introspection.

Stolen from The Sweltering Celt: TMI Tuesday! I don’t know if this is something I’ll do every week, but I liked this one. Therefore, here we go:

1. What do you feel is the difference between sexy and erotic?

Erotic is more sensual, Sexy is more primal. The two can cross over quite often, but not always. Sexy is more out-there, obvious, while Erotic hints and teases.

2. Do you believe there is one right person (i.e. soul mate) for you out there in the world, or that there can be many different potential mates that you could live blissfully with?

I’m not one for the ‘soulmate’ idea personally. I think delicately handled poly relationships are very doable, and can make for very happy people. To limit oneself to one partner because of the ‘one right person’ concept can potentially shut someone out of your life that could truly enrich your existance.

3. Do you need to hear “I love you” or similar words on a regular basis from your partner?

I don’t necessarily need to hear ‘I love you’; but I do occasionally need assurances that I’m wanted. A compliment out of the blue, a sensual kiss that takes me by surprise, any number of little things to make me feel that my partner actually gets something out of having me around. ;)

4. What feeling do you have the most difficulty expressing?

Tough call. I’m going to settle on Desire (not sure if it counts as a ‘feeling’ exactly, but there it is). Desire: It’s difficult (read: impossible) for me to admit to someone that I’m interested in them as more than a friend unless they’ve already expressed interest in me. Rejection is extremely hard for me to take. It’s something I’m working on, and will continue to. (Okay, this question was actually tough for me to answer and not edit out. I’m going to leave it, at least for now. I may puss out later. ;))

5. What is worse – physical, mental or cyber cheating?

Another difficult question, as the definition of cheating really depends on the people in question. Once the boundaries are set, then my choice for most betraying is physical cheating. To me, cheating is dishonesty. If I’m in a committed relationship, and my partner wants to sleep with someone else, they can tell me. We’ll discuss it. If we agree it’s not a bad idea, then cool! Be careful, be safe, and give me details when you get home. ;) If you simply go behind my back, or lie to me about it? Yeah, I’m pissed.

If it’s cybering, all it is is interactive porn in my opinion. As long as it’s not affecting the relationship, it’s nothing to worry about. mental/emotional cheating is still in the thought-fantasy stages. It’s a little closer to the worry point, but can spawn communication about any problems that may be in the relationship. Once it’s physical, it’s real, and is much more difficult to return from. In my opinion, honesty and communication are always the keys to any relationship.

Bonus (as in optional): The Kinsey scale attempts to describe a person’s sexual history or episodes of their sexual activity at a given time. It uses a scale from 0, meaning exclusively heterosexual, to 6, meaning exclusively homosexual. Where are you – TODAY – on the scale?

This actually does vary day by day (the tendency, not in terms of actual episodes). Today? I’m probably a 2. I’m still finding females attractive, but I’m really craving sex with a male right now. Ask me tomorrow, you may get another number. ;)

This was actually kind of tough. Good on ya, Sweltering Celt.

This Post Made Me Smile

September 28, 2008

This post, from the Writing Dirty blog, genuinely made me smile, and sigh wistfully. His work is always good, but this particular post just struck a chord. Well done. :)

MMHNT!

September 18, 2008

This is entirely the fault of the Erotic Bohemian. All blame should be directed her way. ;)

M&Ms: they melt in your mouth, not in your…cleavage?


I’m actually surprised I’m brave enough to post shots like this…I think my shy may be starting to fade here and there. ;)

Plans Coming Up

September 16, 2008

Haven’t really done much to write about in the past few days, so I thought I’d write up things I’ve got planned instead. I can tell you that I’m kind of twitching to play; I think I’m addicted. ;)
Anyway, here goes:

  • The manila/sisal experiment was put on hold. I found out after research that the sisal is not suitable at all for my purposes and can leave tiny splinters in the skin. I may be a masochist, but I ain’t that much of one. The manila I put on hold because it seems to be overly fuzzy and I’m still trying to find an efficient way to singe off the excess (just using a candle seems like it’ll take forever). I’ll be getting some hemp soon, and I’ll try the conditioning thing again.
  • I’m going to try to redo my soft leather flogger prototype with more solid sections of the goodwill jacket.
  • I think I may have to indulge in purchasing something from Lelo. They’re pricy toys, but I haven’t heard a bad review yet.
  • Research wax play. I’m getting quite curious about it.
  • Figure out how the hell to do the braid-weaves people use for flogger handles. I have no clue.

Any suggestions?

Top 100 Sex Bloggers

September 5, 2008

No, I’m not on this list. One, I’m new. Two, I’m rather dull. ;) Three, I don’t think I’m technically a sex blogger; I’ve talked about BDSM play, but never actual sex (at least, from what I’m remembering). Yes, I know it’s a technicality, but technicalities count. ;)

Why am I posting this list if I’m not on it? Because I apparently have very good taste. ;) Most of the blogs I read on a daily basis _are_ on this list, and I think everyone should read them. In addition, I follow some of these individuals on Twitter, and they’re way too much fun to babble with. :)

So basically, pride in those that I’m learning from and a little bit of “I know them!” bragging. *grin*

(by the way, this list is copied and pasted from Sugarbutch. If you go to the Best Sex Bloggers of 2008 page, there are longer bios on many of the bloggers. I recommend it highly.)

1. Sinclair Sexsmith http://sugarbutch.net
2. Radical Vixen http://www.radicalvixen.com
3. Curvaceous Dee http://curvaceousdee.blogspot.com
4. Always Aroused Girl http://aagblog.com
5. Ellie Lumpesse www.lumpesse.com
6. Catalina http://catalinaloves.com
7. Selena Kitt http://selenakittyn.com
8-9. Wifey and Hubby http://wifeytalk.com
10. Roger http://wwww.dirtyboy2.blogspot.com
11. Shanna Katz http://essinem.blogspot.com
12. Amber Rhea http://www.beingamberrhea.com
13-14. Richard and Amy http://247richardandamy.com
15-16. MJ and MJ’s Slave http://www.aslavestruenature.blogspot.com
17. Thursday’s Child http://thursdayschildhasfartogo.blogspot.com
18. Narration by D http://narrationbyd.blogspot.com
19. Andrea Zanin http://www.sexgeek.wordpress.com
20. The Provocateur http://theprovocateur.wordpress.com
21. Violet Blue http://tinynibbles.com
22. Autumn http://dreamsofaneroticaqueen.sensualwriter.com
23. SSS http://sweatshopsissy.wordpress.com
24. Storm http://ambientstorm.blogspot.com
25. Sub lyn http://longdistancesub.blogspot.com
26. Tara Tainton http://www.taratainton.com/tarastrysts/index.html
27. Jake http://factsandfriction.blogspot.com
28. Cherry Bomb http://cherrybombnyc.blogspot.com
29. Lakey http://fairelaffaire.blogspot.com
30. Scarlet http://feministfucktoy.com
31. Glenpreece http://lastbreath.wordpress.com
32. Lolita Wolf http://www.leatheryenta.com
33. Vixen http://blue-eyedvixen.com
34. Tom Paine http://perverselypoly.blogspot.com
35. Tongue Tied Blue http://tonguetiedblue.blogspot.com
36. Maymay http://www.maybemaimed.com
37. Miss Bliss http://blog.blisswarrior.com
38. Mistress Maeve http://7d.blogs.com/mistress
39. Nadia http://www.kinkylibrarian.net
40. Luka http://barbedwireboudoir.blogspot.com
41-42. Odysseus and Penelope http://marriedexploits.blogspot.com
43. Eileen http://bloodylaughter.com
44. Calico http://dominatrixnextdoor.com/blog
45. Caroline Shepherd http://feministsexcarnival.blogspot.com
46. Kathleen http://polyspace.wordpress.com
47. Packing Vocals http://packingvocals.blogspot.com
48. Audacia Ray http://www.wakingvixen.com
49. Axe http://unspeakableaxe.com
50. Baccus http://www.erosblog.com
51. Chelsea Summers http://prettydumbthings.typepad.com/chelseagirl
52. Debauchette http://debauchette.wordpress.com
53. The Butterfly Temptress http://thebutterflytemptress.com
54. Dirty Little Girl http://dirtylittlemind.blogspot.com
55. Sexy Whispers http://sexywhispers.wordpress.com
56. Wendy Blackheart http://www.heartfullofblack.com
57-58. Padme and Anakin http://darkside-journey.blogspot.com
59-60. Him and Her http://sexcakes.blogspot.com
61. Slip of a Girl http://aslipofagirl.blogspot.com
62. Blowjob Babe http://strokesuckswallow.blogspot.com
63-64. Dirty Debbie and CJ http://dirtydebbie.blogspot.com
65. Scorpio http://adventuresofascorpio.blogspot.com
66. Charlotte http://charlottethorpe73.wordpress.com
67. Bitchy Jones http://bitchyjones.wordpress.com
68. Anastasisa http://www.chaosnoir.com/anastasia
69. Alice http://anonymous-alice.blogspot.com
70. Anita Wagner http://practicalpolyamory.blogspot.com
71. Jack http://roughwords.blogspot.com
72. Mistress Matisse http://mistressmatisse.blogspot.com
73. Mariella http://wannaplaymariella.blogspot.com
74. O http://eros-logos.blogspot.com
75. Shasta Gibson http://shastagibson.com
76. Gwen http://www.pop-shot.blogspot.com
77. fivestar http://www.iamfivestar.com
78. Lilly http://dangerouslilly.blogspot.com
79. Penny http://birdsaresmart.blogspot.com
80. Figleaf http://www.realadultsex.com
81. Tony http://www.comstockfilms.com/blog/tony
82. Viviane http://www.thesexcarnival.com
83. Six http://sixelaborates.wordpress.com
84. Bob http://bobsbestboobs.com
85-99. Fiammetta, Jill, Robyn, Scarlot, Melissa, Kitten, Karly, Holly, Surgeon, Stacey, Tara, Jessica, Gina, Wendy, and Tori http://deepthroated.wordpress.com
100. _________________________ Why is #100 blank? Because I know there are dozens…hundreds…of other amazing sex bloggers out there, and I want everyone to be a part of this list.

Why Do We Do It?

August 2, 2008

This post is in response to a suggestion made by Curvaceous Dee in her post ‘Rebuttal‘.

In the post, she explains why she shares the most intimate details of her sexuality in her blog. It’s good stuff, give it a read. In the comments, she suggests making it a meme and following her lead. So, here it is. :)

I explained a little of the why in an earlier post, but I’ll elaborate a little.

While I suppose I’m considered a sex/lifestyle blogger, my posts tend to be rather more on the technical side than the erotic. The subject may be erotic, but as of yet I haven’t posted anything extremely titillating (other than photos of lovely marks on a nice strong back; those were pretty hot, I’ll admit). Part of the reason for that is that the point to starting this blog was for introspective purposes; an examination of myself and my experiences. I’m still very much in the process of learning about the kinky side of myself, figuring out what I actually like, don’t like, what my limits and needs are. Hence the technical, learning style of writing I’ve used so far. The other part is that I’m still a bit self-conscious, but that’s slowly but surely fading. As I evolve, the blog will as well. Stay tuned.

Another reason for writing about these intimate things for all to see: networking, learning, and someday helping others. I’m a newbie to the BDSM scene; I do have real-life friends that have been there for years. However, knowledge is power, and I want to learn from a variety of people about a variety of things. Feedback is good. And at some point there’ll be someone else that’s learning and searching that stumbles onto this blog, and hopefully my introspection and the interactions that happen here can help them in their own quest.

So that’s why I do this in a nutshell.

Anybody else?

A Quickie Before Bed, Compliments of Ellie_Lumpesse

July 31, 2008

This will get stuck in your head. It so will.

Pansexuality rap. Way too fun.

Pointed to this by Ellie_Lumpesse

July 29, 2008

Sexy naked nerd boy roundup? I’m so there. (link from the Pornocracy blog)

Personally, I enjoy seeing naked men. I also enjoy seeing naked women, but that’s beside the point. Most porn is geared towards a male audience. Most of the porn I’ve found that’s supposedly geared towards women is ‘softer’ porn, and really doesn’t appeal to me at all. I’ve recently been watching the ‘Fashionistas’ series of movies (borrowed from The Boy)…and the first movie is really one of the few I’ve found that actually has a man being topped by a woman. Hot!

So go check out the Pornocracy blog. The article is remarkably well-written and brings up some very good points.

Y’know, I never thought about it…

July 27, 2008

I’ve always had a thing for stage magicians/escape artists.

Escape artists as hot submissives, found on the Erotic Bohemian blog.